Grammar lovers, take heed! This post may upset you! Read on only if you are brave and ready to have your writing world ruined…
A Dorky Hipster Ruins Everything
My family has recently become fans of a show called Adam Ruins Everything. To summarize it quickly, take your biggest know-it-all friend, arm him or her with an abundance of well-researched facts from legitimate published sources, add a dose of humility, a dash of quirky comedy and a hipster vibe and you have the recipe to create your own version of Adam Ruins Everything.
This TV show of truth is similar to Mythbusters, but with less blowing stuff up and more funny skits. It covers topics ranging from pets to Ancient Egpyt to drug culture. If you can handle the truth (aka, learning what you thought about the world is completely wrong), the show will give it to you.
My family often finds the show both entertaining and enlightening. Typically, we have no problem with the basic tenets and assumptions of our lives getting blown to smithereens via a 30-minute TV show. (We will never again buy a purebred, or designer-bred, pet and we’re fine with that.) Therefore, it’s not often we find ourselves covering our eyes and saying “No, it can’t be true!” while watching Adam ruin things like the prison system and Christmas. (Did you know the Puritans thought it wasn’t Christian-enough and banned it! Oh the irony!)
We loved getting everything ruined…Until Adam ruined grammar.
Yes, grammar.
When you’re a writer, life is your muse, words are your medium and grammar is your tool. The assumption is without one of these essentials, a writer could not properly write.
Going Grammando
Even though I am a young adult novelist as well as an Editor by trade, I would not call myself a crazy grammar person, aka, a Grammando. If you’re unfamiliar with the term, it means, “one who constantly corrects others’ linguistic mistakes,” and was coined by Lizzie Skurnick from combining the words grammar and commando back in 2012. I’m more like a reformed Grammando. Someone who wants to constantly correct your linguistic mistakes but refrains, mostly. What would you call that? A Grammy?
I am not completely reformed, however. I often catch myself correcting people on their improper use of words like “penultimate” or “atypical” or “mute” or “wary.” (Note: I know this is super obnoxious and try my hardest not to do it!) But I still cringe when I hear someone say, “that’s a mute point.” I can’t seem to help it.
And I do enjoy a good grammar joke as evidenced by the mugs in my house. (See photo evidence below. It’s a classic.)
That said, I am hyper-aware of my own non-perfection in the world of grammar and am filled with insecurities regarding language. Yes, writers feel insecure about writing. Don’t pretend like you’re shocked. This is why I have Grammarly installed on my computer and constantly re-read all of my posts to ensure I don’t make the dreaded you’re/your or it’s/its or there/their/they’re mistakes for fear of utter disgrace! (No joke, I actively stress about this.)
How Can Someone Ruin Grammar?
Grammar fell pretty easily into ruin by pointing out this one tiny fact: language is fluid, making grammar fluid, making being a stickler for the rules kind of meaningless.
I know what you’re thinking. “What? No! How dare you utter such words!”
It’s true, though. There’s no denying it. In the US, we don’t speak or use the same grammar rules as those Christmas-banning Puritans who came to America. (When’s the last time you used the word “doth”? Unless you work at a Renaissance Festival, my guess is never.) Language has been changing and evolving since it’s inception. And while there are many different styles, who is to say what is right and what is wrong? (In the US many people will say Strunk and White. But who made those old stodgy men the authority?)

The Adam Ruins Everything grammar episode provided many interesting examples to support the claim of grammar’s fluidity. Take the word “ain’t,” for instance. Some people associate the usage of this word with being uneducated. (Not me! I said some people!) However, the contraction was actually standard grammar for those of the upper classes in 18th century America. (Translation: The snobby, rich muckety-mucks used the word “ain’t” all the time!)
Adam even debunked my husband’s most hated word “hisself,” explaining it’s actually a more natural conjugation than “himself.” While these examples were interesting, there was one argument that really convinced me we should be more open to variations in grammar and even (gasp) breaking the grammar rules.
What was this sagely wisdom? It’s simple. Instead of using language to divide us, shame each other, or inflict it as a form of class warfare, we should be celebrating the differences in our language and styles, just like we should be celebrating all the differences in people.
Ouch. That one hurt, Adam.
I think I’m starting to come around to the idea though, maybe we should all stop going Grammando and embrace these boundless possibilities of a flexible language. (I mean Shakespeare did. He made up how many words? 200? 500? I need a fact checker! Adam has it easy!) Like with people, variety and diversity make life much more interesting. Here’s to NOT going Grammando!! (Two exclamation points. I’m such a rule breaker!!!)
February 22, 2018 at 12:31 pm
Ok. Yes but no? Still processing this. Yes I know that language is fluid and it evolves over time (I speak with truthiness). But still, there’s some value to knowing the rules, unless that make some people as**oles for remembering those rules and correcting people. Myself included. (I’ve got a lot of corrections in my head that I don’t share with people too!) The worst is when people try to correct the right word/usage/conjugation with the incorrect one! *swoon*
Also, Adam was a guest on Ask Me Another and I loved him. Not sure why we don’t watch this show but that might have to change. Great post.
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February 22, 2018 at 1:07 pm
Yes, rules are helpful. I think his point is be flexible and allow for change and differences. We need to get better at “code switching” and accepting of differences in language. Rules don’t have to be hard and fast and may vary by medium or context. There’s a great section where he has a linguist on and she talks about how texting is its own language with its own grammar rules. It’s really interesting. I highly recommend watching the episode!
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February 22, 2018 at 10:28 pm
I agree with him, to an extent, that flexibility is key. In fact, Word’s green underline is everywhere in my manuscript where I’ve used incomplete sentences or otherwise broken grammar rules. I’m nearly ready to turn that feature off! I wield grammar rules like a sword using it when I want, sheathing it when I want. It’s ours for the using! I know I’d enjoy listening, and I LOVE hearing linguists. 🙂
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February 22, 2018 at 12:50 pm
Reblogged this on Plaisted Publishing House and commented:
A great little post about Grammar
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February 22, 2018 at 9:11 pm
Fluid is a good way of describing grammar, although there are rocks of stability in the stream. How much rule-breaking is okay? If I say ‘me love donkey’, you get my point, but should I be able to get away with it just because I’ve made myself understood? At what point does ‘your’ become an acceptable version of ‘you’re’? Its a hard question. 😉
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February 23, 2018 at 12:40 am
All very true. Rules are helpful for communication. It’s a fun debate to have. Is writing simply a from of communication so whatever you write, as long as it’s understood, should be acceptable. Or is it an art form in which case there is a beauty in using proper grammar and a beauty in breaking the rules. It’s definitely fun to think about.
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February 25, 2018 at 8:30 pm
haha well personally, I’m a grammar lover, but I’ve never felt comfortable correcting people in real life (I just inwardly seethe 😉 ) And I have actually heard that argument, so it’s not ruining grammar for me- I just fundamentally disagree. Adam appears to be coming from a view of “descriptive” grammar as opposed to “prescriptive”. The argument fundamentally comes from a good place of not wanting to be a snob- however in reality is entirely ineffective in reducing class divides (and inevitably widens the gulf). When it comes to grammar, it also makes a huge difference in terms of comprehensibility- for instance the syntax of a sentence is rather rigid. However there’s a difference between grammar, dialect and pronunciation- so while I generally fall on the prescriptive side for grammar, I wouldn’t say it’s the same for dialect/pronunciation (although there’s varying degrees of where it makes a difference in terms of comprehensibility). There’s also a difference between changing grammar (which is surprisingly more fixed and changes very little) as opposed to coining new words as Shakespeare did (and is very common).
Sorry for going off into one- like I said, I’m a grammar nerd!
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February 26, 2018 at 9:34 pm
I love it. You have a great perspective. I think these types of conversations are great because they’re conversations! It’s great to hear other people’s viewpoints. We need more of that, even for topics one wouldn’t think would be controversial, like grammar. Start with grammar, next world peace! Just get the conversation going. 🙂
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February 26, 2018 at 9:39 pm
Oh thank you and I love your perspective- definitely agree that it’s all about having conversations 🙂 haha that’d make a wonderful slogan! 😉
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